I have received many enquiries about whether 2013 is a good year to get married because it is deemed a “Widow Year”. Story has it that getting married in a “Widow Year” will cause bad luck and even bring early death to one’s husband if the couple is married in that year.
So what is a “Widow Year”?
A “Widow Year” or “Blind Year” comes about when there is no Li Chun or “first day of Spring” in that year due to a difference in time periods between the solar and lunar calendars when Li Chun occurs before the first day of the Lunar Chinese New Year. When that happens Li Chun is deemed to be absent thus making events like marriages inauspicious because Li Chun represents the start of Spring and Spring represents new beginnings and a marriage is considered a “new beginning” for a marrying couple.
So no Li Chun = no Spring = no new beginning = inauspicious. Locally we call this “pang tang” or taboo. 
But this is a Chinese cultural belief and has no significance or impact on Chinese Date Selection. Most Date Selection masters do not even take a “Widow Year” into consideration when selecting an auspicious date for marrying as these years occur quite frequently. The impact of auspiciousness of the selected date on a person’s birth date is more important.
Even if a “Widow Year” is as bad as it sounds, there are always very auspicious days coinciding with a person’s birth date that will overcome any inauspiciousness of that year so no worries. 2013 is a year like any other year. Depending a person’s birth date, it will be auspicious for some while inauspicious for others. That is why selecting a proper date for a major event like marriage according to the couple’s birth dates is very important.
Hi, just wanted to check we are having our ROM come March 31st is this a good date considering my DOB is Nov.10,1981 and my hubby DOB is July 30th 1984. Can you also advice us as to what would be a considerably lucky wedding date for june and dec. of this year. Please help been thinking abt finding the right date abt 6months already. hope that you can provide guidance to us. cheers!
Hi Chatterbox_81,
31/03 is a so-so day for marriage. I you want to get married on a generally auspicious wedding day, you can choose from my list of auspicious wedding dates here: http://www.pureclassicalfengshui.com/?p=1408
But if you really want peace of mind and a wedding date that is personally very lucky for both the bride and the groom, you might want to consider engaging our wedding date selection service.
Just wondering if this is a good year to get married at all for me. My birthdate is 30 April 1988 and his is 02 July 1980.
Hi Kelly,
Yes, it is a good year for you to get married this year. All you need to do now is to choose an auspicious day.
Hi Stanley,
How can i proceed to engage a wedding date selection service. secondly is this year a good year to marriage for us. our date of birth as per above details. thanks
Hi Chatterbox_81,
Yes, it is preferable to get married this year than in 2014.
My fee for auspicious wedding date selection is $88 SGD, which can be paid by credit card through Paypal, by cheque or by inter-bank transfer. To facilitate the date selection I will need the birth date, birth time and country of birth of both the bride and the groom. You will receive 3 wedding dates that is most suitable to both parties ranging from the best plus 2 next second best, should the first one be not usable for whatever reasons. Also kindly allow 3 days for delivery.
Work will begin once confirmation of payment if received. Thank you.
Hi Stanley,
reading your post regarding this 2013 as widow year, somehow bothered me..
please if you can tell me if its ok if we will push through with our wedding, our wedding is schedule for the May 22, 2013 at 3 pm… bride is rabbit = november 25, 1975 while groom is pig = mar 29, 1971.
please do advise
thanks
Hi Joan,
Don’t worry too much about 2013 being a Widow Year. Like I said in my article, it’s a Chinese cultural belief and has no impact on Date Selection. It’s just like any other year.
My main concern is not so much the not-so-ideal wedding date of May 22 but the direct conflict between the groom’s birth year and your birth date with the year’s Grand Duke Jupiter (also known as the Tai Sui). It is a very bad idea to hold any major events like a wedding, starting a new business or moving into an new house when there is a direct conflict with a major negative star like the Grand Duke. My recommendation is to postpone the wedding to 2014 or consider engaging our wedding date selection service to help you choose the most auspicious wedding date to negate the inauspiciousness of the year and help attract happiness and good fortune into the marriage if you want to get married in 2013.
Hi Stanley,
thank you so much.
Hi Joan,
Cheers.
widows year sounds scary to me.
we have choosen 2 dates 11/2/2013 and 13/2/2013 morning
our date of birth is
17/6/1981 = rooster
24/12/1989 = snake groom
do you think we should tie the knot this year? pls do advise
thank you
Hi Alan,
The Widow Year is not the problem here but the groom’s birth year. It happens to be in conflict with the Grand Duke Jupiter (Tai Sui) in 2013 thus making it not a good idea for the groom to get married without a very auspicious wedding date. Plus both chosen dates are inauspicious as well. I strongly recommend you re-select your wedding date (maybe to a later date but no need to postpone) or consider engaging our wedding date selection service to help you choose the most auspicious wedding date.
hi stanley,
is it ok if we move our wedding date nov.21,2013 change to jan. 8, 2014?. im just worried about widow year.
bride birthday-04/13/1984
groom birthday-01/25/1984.
please advice us.
thank u so much!
Hi Anne,
Like I mentioned in my article, the Widow Year is a Chinese cultural belief due to a difference in the solar and lunar calendar and has no real impact on your marriage but if you are uncomfortable getting married in 2013, maybe you want to consider engaging in our wedding date selection service to help you select a very auspicious wedding date for the both of you?
i just read this article and I admit that it’s bothering me…
We’re planning to tie the knot on October 21, 2013 afternoon. Is this a good date for us?
My date of birth is November 30, 1985 = Ox
May 31, 1981 = Rooster groom
Should we pursue it this year?
Hi yve,
Oct 21st is not the perfect date for marriage but you can still get married in 2013 as it is a suitable year for both of you.
Very interesting post. My date of birth is March 5, 1985. I would like to know if this is a good year for me to get married.
Thanks!
Hi Ramya,
Yes.
Hi Stanley!
I would like to know what’s the difference between standard (88SGD)and deluxe(288SGD)? Well, aside from the price ofcourse..
Hope to hear from you soon. Thanks! =)
Hi Yve,
The standard package uses only one modality, which is Bazi (as is industry standard), to derive your personally auspicious wedding dates while the deluxe package goes deeper with the utilization of Western Astrology, Numerology and Zi Wei Duo Shu together with Bazi to refine and filter the personalized auspicious wedding dates even further resulting in the best wedding date possible.
Hello Stanley,
Would this year be good for us?
groom: 09/01/49 = Ox
wtb : 04/14/53 = snake
Hi Dea,
Yes but you can make it even better by marrying in a personally auspicious wedding date.
Hi Stanley,
Kindly check if these is a good time to tie the knots
Groom: July 9, 1975
Bride: Jan 17, 1981
Wedding Date: November 16, 2013
Is this a good year for us or shall we move it to 2014?
Thanks,
Jen
Hi Jen,
You can get married in 2013 but Nov 16 is not a good day. Would you like to engage us to help you choose a very auspicious wedding day?
Hi,
My fiancee dob is 11-28-1981(rooster).
My dob is 3-31-20-20-3 +/- 14 days or so (since my parents dont remember exact date but know that i am an ox).
We are planning either nov 2, 2013 or nov 30, 2013 as our wedding date.
Are these dates ok?
Thanks so much!
Hi Anne,
Nov 30th would be better.
My bday is 3/31/1985 plus or minus 14 days
Greetings Stanley,
Thanks so much for all ths information! It is very helpful(!!). Like so many others I too was worred about the “Widow Year” factor (for 2013) — esp. given my fiance is a few years older than I, and neither one of us are “spring chickens”. We’ve planned an Oct 26 (a Sat.) wedding date which is NOT one of the “generic” auspiscious dates you list. HOWEVER, I’d read elsewhere that it’s the date you sign all the official papers on that matters the most(?). So I am wondering & since they are so close: if we wait and sign the offical papers on Mon. Oct 28, which IS a generic auspicious day (& the first business day after the ceremony) would that give us he full benefit of “marrying on an auspicous day”? — My DOB is 24 Dec. 1963 (Water Rabit), and my fiance’s is !6 Nov. 1952 (Water Dragon). Thanks so much for any help you can give!
Hi Sienna,
Yes, the most important date is the Registry Of Marriage (ROM) day or the day both of you sign on the official wedding documents to seal your marriage as husband and wife. So it would be a very good idea to get married on Oct 28 as it is an auspicious day for marriages.
Hi,
Recently engaged, we’re deciding on a wedding date. First things first…what year? Because of the 13 we decided 2014 is safer. However I’m reading that 2013 may be wiser. I’m a goat (4/14/79) he’s a monkey (7/26/80). What do you think about the year?
Thanks!!!!
Hi Apryl,
So long as you get married on an auspicious date, you can marry in either years as there are no major clashes with your birth years. And if you are worried about the number “13″ then you are mixing up westerner beliefs with Chinese Date Selection.
Hi, thanks for the info! My concern about the 2013 is because its a widow year. But then I read that 2013 is a good year for the monkey to get married in which my fiancé is. We’re thinking 9/18/13. Any thoughts on that date? Cheers!
Hi Apryl,
9/18/13 is not a good day for weddings.
Will November 30th 2013 be a good day for us to marry? He is 10/26/76 (dragon) and I am 7/24/82 (dog). Thanks!
Hi Sarah,
Yes, it is. Congrats!
Thanks Stanley!
Hi Stanley,
We plan to get married this Dec 2013, but my grandma says according to feng sui man are not supposed to get married at the age of 31.
May I know why is that so?
Hi yL,
I don’t quite understand your sentence. Do you mean your grandma said that according to feng shui, Man (meaning human beings) is not supposed to get married at age of 31 or do you mean she said according to the feng shui man, you are not supposed to get married at age of 31? Either way, it is a Chinese cultural taboo and has no implications in date selection nor in feng shui.
Hi Stanley,
I am considering a wedding on 10/26/13 or 11/2/2013.
Bride bday 3/1/1985
Groom bday 7/8/1986
Is this a good year for us? are those dates okay?
Hi Steph,
The year is fine but the dates are not.
Hello,
What are the auspicious dates for getting married in 2013 for us?
Bride: 4 Oct 1965 – snake
Groom: 23 Oct 1675 – rabbit
Can you recommend a date-calculator to know all of them for this year?
Thank you!!!
Best wishes
Hi Tina,
Please check your private email.
I love reading all of this.Keep it up
Stanley!
Hi Nancy,
Thank you for your kind words.
Hi Stanley,
We are planning to wed late fall of 2013 or spring 2014.
What are the auspicious dates for those months please?
groom: 5/26/81 = rooster
bride: 2/6/86 = my parents say I am half ox and half tiger b/c of the chinese ny so I don’t know what I really am
Thanks so much for your help!!!
Hi Cindy,
The 2013 Fall auspicious wedding dates are already listed on my site. For The Spring 2014 dates you will have to wait till next year for the free list to be up. By the way, you are born in the year of the Tiger.
Hi,
Just want to get married this year say in June 2013
Groom 24 feb 1985( ox)
Bride 15 sep 1982 ( dog )
What is the best day and is it the right year for us
Hi Eve,
You can get married this year and you can choose from any of the auspicious wedding dates as listed on my site. But if you really want the best and most auspicious wedding date, then I recommend engaging our wedding date selection services. Kindly email info@tenki.sg for more details. Thank you.
My birthday : 3/22/1988 (dragon)
My Fiance: 11/17/1983 (boar)
would like to now what’s a good weeding date by november to get married. Thanks!
Hi Michelle,
You can choose from any of the auspicious wedding dates as listed on my site but if you seriously really want the luckiest date in 2013 then you will have to engage our wedding date selection services. Kindly email info@tenki.sg for details.
Hi,
Could you please tell me which dates are most auspicious for my wedding this year? My fiance and I are both oxen and would like to get married between November 2013 and January 2014. Thank you so much!
Hi Lynn,
You can choose from any of the auspicious wedding dates as listed on my site.
Hi stanley..i enailed u at the email u tld me..can u do wedding selection online consulttion?
Hi Michelle,
Have replied your email.
Nope u havent. So do u do online consultation for date selection or not?
Hi Michelle,
The email was sent out at 9.19pm Singapore time so it may be in your mail box by now. Anyway to answer your question, yes we do online consultation for date selection if that is requested. You have a choice of email, Skype or Facebook messaging.
I prefer email and facebook messaging
My Birthday – Jan. 9, 1980 (sheep)
My Fiance – Jan. 8, 1980 (sheep)
We are planning to get married Oct. 25, 2013. Is this a lucky day for us? If not, is January 25, 2014 a better day? How much is your wedding date selection service? Thank you.
Hi Fiona,
Oct 25th is not an ideal day for marriage.
You can choose from any of the generally auspicious dates already posted on my site or you may want to choose to use our Auspicious Wedding Date Selection service. We have 2 wedding date selection packages: Deluxe and Regular.
Regardless of which package you ultimately choose, all the dates selected will be very auspicious because it is chosen according to the individual birthdates and times of the bride and groom. The difference between our deluxe and regular package is the modalities used in the date selection. The deluxe package uses 3 different modalities (Bazi, Western Astrology and Numerology) while the regular package uses only one single modality (bazi) commonly used by most feng shui masters. And because the deluxe package uses more modalitites, the already auspicious wedding dates selected by bazi (regular package) will be further fine-tuned and filtered by western astrology and numerology. The resulting wedding date will be the very best and most auspicious available to you.
Due to the amount of work involved, the fee for the deluxe package is $288 SGD while the regular package is $88 SGD. Payment can be made by Paypal (located at the upper right of my website). Upon confirmation of payment, work will begin.
Please let me know which you would orefer. Thank you.
Hi Stanley,
Can you tell me if 2013 works for us for our wedding or 2014? Widow year kind of scares me, but I’m not sure which year works better for us.
My birthday – 8/18/78
His birthday – 2/1/60
Thank you!
Hi Loan,
If you had read my article on the Widow year, there’s a part that says “Most Date Selection masters do not even take a “Widow Year” into consideration when selecting an auspicious date for marrying as these years occur quite frequently. The impact of auspiciousness of the selected date on a person’s birth date is more important.” so don’t worry too much about it.
By the way it is better for both of you to get married in 2013 as next year is not a good year for him to get married.
Hi!
I was born on May 25, 1986 and my fiance was December 8, 1981 is it lucky for us to continue our wedding this year? What will be the best date if we will continue our plan?
Thanks.
Hi May,
Yes you can get married in thsi year.
Hi
We are planning to get married this year.
Monkey groom dob 21/03/1980
Monkey bride dob 01/12/1980
Is 13 oct 2013 an auspicious date?
Hi Shen,
13 Oct is not an ideal date for marriage.
Hi,
I was born 02/06/78 and my partner 26/08/72. We are hoping to get married this year as his Mother is not well and we would like to try or a baby once married.
Is this a good yer to get married?
Many thanks
Hi Annabelle,
Yes it is better for both of you to get married this year.
Hi Stanley,
My boyfriend and I live together and want to get married this year. We have no picked a date yet but we wanted to just go to court and do it soon.
My birthday is 2-5-1976.
His is 7-31-1977
Is this is good year for us to get married? If so, which date?
Thanks.
Hi Ines,
Yes, it is a good year for both of you. As for the date, any of the auspicious wedding dates as listed here http://www.pureclassicalfengshui.com/?p=1408 are good.
Hi Stanley. Will it be ok if I inquire your opinion about our wedding?
Bride’s Birthday: March 18, 1987
Grooms’ Birthday: January 1, 1986
Target wedding day: May 18, 2013; afternoon
Thank you
Hi Vince,
May 18 is an acceptable day.
Hi,
I am getting married o May 10th of this year my date of birth is 05-03-1984.
And my fiancee date of birth is 20-01-1988, Do you think this is a good start in my life.
Hi Rohan,
5th May is a day of the solar eclipse. It is considered inauspicious to be married on this day.
Hi Stanley If you see my mail the date I have mentioned is 10th May.
Hi Rohan,
Sorry for the typo. I meant 10th May.
Hi,
i am planning to get married in the month of november 2013 we are not sure about the date yet,could you advise what would be a good date.
bride (date of birth) : 23-04-1983
grooms (date of birth) : 30-10-1984
Hi Nisha,
Any of the Nov dates as listed are all generally good dates for geting married in.
thankyou stanley
Stanley—
I am July 24, 1982 and my boyfriend is October 26, 1976—-Is October 12, 2013 a good day for us to get married?
Hi Sarah,
No for Oct 12th, no for Oct 5th also.
Hi Stanley,
My fiance and I are planning to get married. Which is the best year for us (2013 or 2014)
to get married based on our birthdates and what month and day.
My birtdate: Nov.06, 1956 and her birthdate is: August 3, 1978.
Thanks a lot and keep up the good work!
Francis
Hi Francis,
Your requirement has gone into the region of a paid service. If you are still interested, kindly email info@tenki.sg for details. Thank you.
Stanley,
is august 17, 2013 an ok day for wedding (bride born april 25, 1985 and groom born september 4, 1982)
thank you
Hi Talissa,
AUgust 17th is not a suitable day for getting married.
Dear Stanley,
I am July 24, 1982 and he is Oct 26, 1976—-Is August 31 or August 30 a good day for us to marry?
Thanks!
Hi Sarah,
August 31st seems to be a good day.
Hi,
I’m 30 Dec 1980 and he is 05 August 1982.
I’m looking for a day in December. Is 21st December or 22nd December a good day for marriage?
Thanks
SV
Hi SV,
Both days are no good.
Hi,
I want to get married on the 20th June 2013 (registry day) and wedding party on 23rd June 2013.
We are both the year of the dog:
Bride: 18/08/82
Groom: 24/03/82
Can you tell me if both dates are ok?
Kind Regards
Huong
Hi Huong,
I am sorry to inform you that June 20th is not a good day for marrying.
Hi Huong,
Although 23rd June is not ideal also, the wedding party can go ahead as planned as it will not affect the marriage to a large extent either way.
thanks, is there any other day that is good between the 17-22 June that is good for the registry day?
Hi Huong,
There are none.
Stanley,
Help! My fiancé is the sign of a snake and I am a sign of a dog is September 29th a good day for us to?? thanks you so much!!
Hi Ying,
29th Sept is not a good day for weddings.
HI Stanley,
We want to get married on Aug 18, 2013
He is born Oct 18, 1976 (dragon)
Mine is Sept 16, 1980 (monkey)
Is is a good year to get married?
Hi Jan,
It a good year but not a good day to marry.
Is September 6, 2014 a good year to be married for two people in 1985?
Hi Elmo,
2014 is not an ideal year for people born in 1985 to marry. Better if both of you can marry this year.